S5E6: Navigating Parenting in the 5D Collective

This episode explores the emotional journey of parents navigating the challenges of supporting children with learning disabilities, emphasizing community support, understanding, and positive communication.

 

Chapters

 

00:00 Introduction to the community support event

01:57 Parents share their emotional experiences

03:55 The importance of trust in schools and teachers

06:03 Supporting children through emotional and academic challenges

07:52 The significance of community and shared resources

10:05 How diagnosis impacts family dynamics

12:12 Talking to children about their learning disabilities

14:03 Personal stories of diagnosis and acceptance

15:57 Supporting siblings and family members

17:54 The power of positive communication and understanding

20:05 The importance of tailored support and avoiding cookie-cutter solutions

21:48 Challenging stereotypes about dyslexia and neurodiversity

24:05 The value of community events and expert guidance

25:55 Celebrating strengths and building self-awareness

28:01 The role of support systems in family resilience

29:48 Closing thoughts and encouragement for parents

 

Transcript

 

00:00:10:01 - 00:00:40:00

Unknown

So last night, the first five D collective kickoff and afterwards. I mean, I know I said, and it sounds corny, but my heart was so full. Like I was so just smiling. It was really great connections. You could see the parents that their shoulders were up, kind of like go down a little bit. As we were going through and introducing everyone, and everyone was introducing themselves and telling their little story.

 

00:00:40:02 - 00:00:48:19

Unknown

I thought it was beautiful. Yeah. And specially we've talked about it for, you know, for a long time and.

 

00:00:48:21 - 00:01:15:06

Unknown

Yo, you know, terminology we always, you know, in the trenches, you know, when you're in the middle of it, you don't know kind of where to turn or who to talk to or who's telling the truth or is this right or this is wrong. And, you know, there's, you know, we know this better than anybody. But, you know, one of the moms just said that, you know, I trusted the teachers.

 

00:01:15:08 - 00:01:28:02

Unknown

No, I trusted the school. I was their school. You know, and we've all and we've all been there, and, you know, to have one of the moms who was.

 

00:01:28:04 - 00:01:56:05

Unknown

Kindergarten teacher and mother of three says she's learned more from us than she ever did in yo in school. Like, I'd love to take that as a compliment and, you know, in the right way, but that's, you know, she taught kindergarten. This is like, right where all this starts. And she was an educated on it. And,

 

00:01:56:07 - 00:02:25:05

Unknown

It was, you know, so it was awesome just to see everybody to get this, get this started. We've talked about this for, for a long time and it'll grow. You know, everything we do is very, you know, grassroots and organic. And, you know, it was last night too. And, you know, now those parents and those people know they got somewhere to turn and somewhere where they didn't have before.

 

00:02:25:07 - 00:02:51:06

Unknown

And, you know, we we touched on it and we've touched on the podcast so many times. But like, as you just said, when you're in the transit trenches, it's hard to breathe and to know when people are like, well, how can I help you? What can I do? Right? It's like when you have some big you know, I've talked to the last number of months has been heavy with a lot of things going on with a lot of people in my world and, you know, like tragic stuff.

 

00:02:51:06 - 00:03:15:13

Unknown

And it's like, you don't know what to say on the other side. Like, I'm here to help, but you don't know what to say. I want to help. How can I help you? And one of the things that people always say is when you're in it, you don't know what you need, and you know that people care. But it's almost like a frustration thing because it's like, I don't know what I need and I don't know how to I don't know how to see, you know, to feel and I don't know how to navigate it.

 

00:03:15:13 - 00:03:30:03

Unknown

And so if this can be a space that, you know, we had some people that were just like, you know, I just want to be there. I don't want to say anything, which we're going to get a lot of. And that's okay, because it's a safe space. We're not recording the ones that where people are just introducing themselves and talking.

 

00:03:30:04 - 00:03:53:08

Unknown

You know, will record the ones that that have the experts for for the members of the community, because that's something if they miss, they might want to hear. But I think that is one of the things I really put myself back into when I was going through it and downing a bottle of wine at night and, you know, eating chips for dinner because I was like, I just want this feeling to go away.

 

00:03:53:10 - 00:04:18:18

Unknown

Sounds amazing. Now they were actually, you know, this is what you actually get annoyed. There were quinoa chips from Whole Foods, so I'll take the wine. I know. So I would be like, oh, it's not that unhealthy, it's healthy chips. Anyways, because it was like, I just felt so lost. But I had family that understood, right? My mom was an education.

 

00:04:18:18 - 00:04:43:13

Unknown

I had support in the community that was like here, but I and I had a husband that was like, whatever you need. But I could not get past it because I was. So how am I going to save this kid from not feeling how I felt? Right? I was totally it brought me right back to when I wasn't taking care of, and I was like, I will do everything possible that this child knows that we are here for him.

 

00:04:43:13 - 00:04:52:20

Unknown

But then sometimes you go overboard right then and then you become crazy. Well, you know, and it's it's.

 

00:04:52:22 - 00:05:19:01

Unknown

So different than being there to support somebody, you know, broke up with a girlfriend or a divorce or, you know, I'm here. How can I help? You know, when it comes to this, it's such a different area because the people that haven't lived it, you're going to say, hey, trust the school. You're going to say trust the teacher.

 

00:05:19:02 - 00:05:59:05

Unknown

You're going to say, hey, they they said they're going to do this. And then from our side, they're not doing it properly because that's not what the kid needs. And then so it's, it's it's a hard space to have support in, you know, and when you talk about having a family that loves you and supports you and those kinds of things in a journey, it's very different than that because, you know, a lot of times, you know, as a parent trying to get in with a, you know, a 5 or 4 or IEP, you're going into school with, you know, you're sitting in a conference table and there's 18 of them and one of you

 

00:05:59:05 - 00:06:18:18

Unknown

and they all think they know more, and they're talking down to you and thinking you're, you know, you're not talking right. And you don't know what you're talking about. And it's hard to get support from anybody else because it's, it's it's support in a different way. You know, they're there to support you. You know that they love you.

 

00:06:18:18 - 00:06:37:09

Unknown

They're they're they're going to help you. But this community is, you know, it's very different when you're in the middle of the trenches of trying to get the right wording down for that IP, or to find a good neuro site to get my kid tested or to read those results. Okay. Now what's the next step? How do I go to the school?

 

00:06:37:11 - 00:07:05:04

Unknown

They got their 90 day period, you know, so it's it's just something very different support system than, than when you hear the word of kind of support system. And one thing that you touched on that I think is also really important, and I felt like my chest like tighten up when you're in it and you just want to make sure that your child is okay.

 

00:07:05:04 - 00:07:27:22

Unknown

When you know, as a parent, for most parents, when your child is hurting, you're hurting so fucking deep because you just want to protect this child. You just want to put them in a bubble and not have the world hurt them. And when you see them little and already getting the bruises and the dings because of school and you, you were there and it brings it back.

 

00:07:27:22 - 00:07:48:00

Unknown

It is so heavy and it becomes tumble to like you're so focused on here that you know, to make them not hurt, that you miss some of this stuff that's coming on, going, you know, like, you know, not through my divorce. Like you could have told me all these I didn't see. I was so into that, so into this, so this.

 

00:07:48:01 - 00:08:20:22

Unknown

And that's what this is. You're showing that that if we can take a little bit of that pressure off that parent and just have like said, you know, have that shoulder shoulders drop just just a little bit, that gives them a little more time to breathe, gives them a little more time to absorb information, gives a little more time to think clearer.

 

00:08:21:00 - 00:08:32:02

Unknown

And you know what we're trying to build. That's a win. And the other thing is, and I think is.

 

00:08:32:04 - 00:08:53:11

Unknown

It's the shoulders dropping. Right. And then so many of us, you're so worried that you are too late. Right. And then like, oh my gosh, I missed this. If I didn't get it right, it's that. And what we always say is you're not too late. Like you're doing the steps like so never freak out. Yes, you might be a little bit behind.

 

00:08:53:12 - 00:09:15:02

Unknown

Like, you know, you feel that you're a little bit behind. Maybe you didn't put that in the IEP because you didn't know, but now you do. And it's just it's to know that and where we can have you just take that breath. The other is when we hear people say, my husband or wife didn't understand it. And learning from you guys, it's it's harmony.

 

00:09:15:02 - 00:09:34:19

Unknown

More in the house. Right. We're together on this. We understand it. We know it's not the kids fault because a lot of times one of the parents get so frustrated. Like, I just don't understand why you just can't do it. Why aren't you doing it? And it's a lot coming from. I someone that wasn't diagnosed and maybe was, but it's bringing the trauma up or they're not diagnosed and they don't understand.

 

00:09:34:19 - 00:10:02:15

Unknown

So that to me is like everything right that we've had people just say thank you because my spouse understands a little bit more of who my child is. Well, I had a child. We've talked about this story before. You know, the family in Ohio. You know the kid. Oh, we got him tested. He came back to select sick and, you know.

 

00:10:02:17 - 00:10:28:04

Unknown

Six months later, you know, mom calls crying. You'll he got student of the week. And on top of that, before that husband didn't have it. She has it. You know, obviously, they're butting heads. You know, marriage wasn't very good because of what you just said. And she's crying because he's got student of the week, which she not thought I'd never, ever happen.

 

00:10:28:06 - 00:10:44:16

Unknown

And their marriage is better than that's ever been, because now there's understanding and it's it's amazing how deep all this goes in the house. You know, it's not just, you know.

 

00:10:44:18 - 00:11:15:10

Unknown

If you have, you know, siblings, you know, you've got one that has it. Maybe the other one doesn't have it, but they're watching all this. They're seeing what's going on. Go there. You know, they're reacting to the energy that's going on. And they see the pain that's going on. Right. You know, and then, you know, if you know, mom has it and dad's, you know, working and doesn't have it again, it's so different than anything else.

 

00:11:15:10 - 00:11:28:06

Unknown

So it affects the whole house. It affects the whole family. So the more that you know, we can be there to to support.

 

00:11:28:08 - 00:11:53:00

Unknown

Them all, whoever does need it in the house because we've had it. That's what this is for. That's what the community is for. And because can't say we've gone through every single thing, but I, you know, there isn't too many, there isn't too many things when it comes to this that you know, that we haven't, you know, we haven't gone through.

 

00:11:53:02 - 00:12:15:21

Unknown

Which then leads me to we did have a parent ask, and we've talked about this on the podcast, probably not in depth. And this could be one of a really good community event. You know, one of the meetings that we talk and have an expert and then parents kind of share how they shared dyslexia with their child. So I can take you through what I did for, like, what we did as a family for Montgomery.

 

00:12:15:21 - 00:12:41:01

Unknown

And one of the things that was really interesting, but do you want to kind of set that up? Yeah, I had you know, I had a parent ask me, you know, just recently got their their kid diagnosed with the slacks in. You know, the question was, do you have any one pager, or any direction of how to tell your kid, you know, how how do they.

 

00:12:41:02 - 00:13:05:13

Unknown

How do you tell them that they have, you know, one of the five days, two of the five days, three, whatever that is. What's your recommendation on, how to, you know, how to do that? So I remember we're we are a family that communicates. But it was interesting. So I wanted a couple things. When we were getting we got my Montgomery diagnosed.

 

00:13:05:14 - 00:13:23:12

Unknown

We talked about it. We talked about as a, you know, as a family first. Yeah. Because your kids were Montgomery's obviously the oldest. So. So they were young was being born when you had. Yeah. Yeah. So Penelope's two years younger. So member she was like cried and pre-K because she watched and she was like, I think I can't read.

 

00:13:23:12 - 00:13:32:00

Unknown

So I'm dyslexic. So she was a sibling years younger than I mean, four years younger. Sorry. Two years younger than.

 

00:13:32:01 - 00:13:59:20

Unknown

She's four years younger than Montgomery. So, yeah. Montgomery wasn't diagnosed until second grade. First, second, second grade was in second grade because it was Mrs.. It was passed. That's what's seven years old. So he was six, seven eight. So she was to know for good math. Yeah. Yeah yeah. So she was going to pre-K and it was literally she got into the car that day and started crying.

 

00:13:59:20 - 00:14:15:21

Unknown

And this is when we already had talked about it. But this is actually really interesting. And I maybe I know I talked about in the beginning, but you might be like, oh, I don't remember this. So when my Montgomery was diagnosed, we had full on conversations. My older and my younger sister was also had her son Bradley was being diagnosed.

 

00:14:15:21 - 00:14:29:20

Unknown

So we talked about it. We had talked about because Montgomery, when he was little, when we were in Brooklyn, a pre-K teacher like I might didn't send my kids to like pre-K when they were two or like, I mean, preschool when they were two. I was like, we're a preschool. I can do it, do this. Like, we had fun.

 

00:14:29:20 - 00:14:43:11

Unknown

I did it kind of like they did two days when they were three, whatever. And this teacher said something about how he his his how he was writing. She's like, just keep an eye on it. So it was like, okay. So that was kind of when we were moving and there was a lot of different things, but we were keeping an eye on.

 

00:14:43:11 - 00:15:09:18

Unknown

So the public school that we eventually went to for kindergarten, we already knew that he possibly was, but we knew that we could talk about it and there was a combination, but we didn't get him officially diagnosed with the whole full neuroscience. But it was very clear in when he was at Holly pond, at five, in pre-K, because he went to kindergarten at six, that he could not write like he could not even get his name on a thing.

 

00:15:09:18 - 00:15:28:23

Unknown

So then we were starting to like, okay, let's talk about this. We did not know about the dyslexia because he memorized everything, right? So when he then went through the whole neuroscience in second grade, we had already like Bradley was talking. We talked about the struggles. I talked about how I, you know, had a hard time in school, but I didn't have the words in it.

 

00:15:29:00 - 00:15:48:20

Unknown

You know, just like these things came hard to me. So when he got the official diagnosis, he was with us with the doctor and was like, oh my God, okay. And the relief of that child was like, oh, I am dyslexic. So we also did a video and I know you don't love it, but it was called Big Picture Thinking Dyslexia.

 

00:15:48:20 - 00:16:09:18

Unknown

And it was actually a very short little snippet because in our town they had done the show, had come to town to talk to, and this is before he was diagnosed though. So I was just like, oh, I'm trying to learn as much as I can. And I was like, oh, that was actually a really good. It was short and it showed the brain how the words go in.

 

00:16:09:18 - 00:16:37:03

Unknown

And it was like, almost like for kids to understand it. I actually really liked and it was positive. So when he got that official diagnosis, we sat down and we showed him because he's like, okay, what does that mean? Right? I understand that school's different and hard. And so then we had that whole year of the public school working with the public school, when we were looking at the private schools, when we realized the public school couldn't help, we talked to two different ones.

 

00:16:37:03 - 00:16:55:15

Unknown

And I'm going to say the name so Windward doesn't tell their students they're dyslexic. And I had a problem with that. I was like, wait, so. But he knows he's dyslexic and they're like, yeah, we don't use those words. And I was like, well, why? They didn't really tell me. Southport, where he chose, where he actually chose to go because he's like, I actually like that better.

 

00:16:55:16 - 00:17:19:01

Unknown

They talked about it and they celebrated it. They talked about all the different learning disabilities and what that meant for your brain. So he had the understanding early and then the family when he watched that video, and it was like he was doing a and I'm sure parents can remember, you do like an activity where you talk about your family and who you are on a big poster board, right?

 

00:17:19:01 - 00:17:39:02

Unknown

You put pictures and it's like this and that and we all, you know, we all have family, family tree or whatever. Yeah, exactly. And he's like, mommy, I want to tell my class that I have dyslexia and that that's why I have the iPad. And I said, okay, because his school didn't have where we were in Connecticut, didn't have everyone had electronics and technology.

 

00:17:39:02 - 00:17:57:14

Unknown

So he did a whole thing on it. And then he said, I really want to show Penelope and and Truman that video, because I want them to understand why school's always been so hard for me. So we sat as a family and we watched it all. Now, looking back, that's probably what tweaks Penelope, because then she couldn't read.

 

00:17:57:14 - 00:18:18:11

Unknown

And so there probably should have been some more conversation around that. Because that child, you know, held it in and was like, oh, I can't read them just like, like and I'm going to go through all of that. But as you said, like we were, you know, there was a lot of communications about it. My mom talked to him about it, and we had it opened conversation and not where it wasn't.

 

00:18:18:11 - 00:18:34:22

Unknown

But some families don't, and I don't agree with that. I have friends, very close friends, that their children are in middle school and they finally talk to them about it. And I was like, do you understand that? They want to know why they're learning different, they think they're dumb. And we got into arguments about it. And then when they finally did, they're like, shit, I should have listened to you.

 

00:18:34:23 - 00:19:01:08

Unknown

My kid was like, oh my God, so I'm not dumb. It's because I learned different. And so it is a really beautiful thing if you keep it for depending on the age of the child. Yeah. You know, and I talk about, you know, your brains just you learn differently and really emphasize, everybody has strengths and everybody has weaknesses.

 

00:19:01:08 - 00:19:21:13

Unknown

And we talked about that. Yeah. So much. Yeah, I love that. I really emphasize that because in school they only emphasize, you know, obviously all the weaknesses. So I you know, I really emphasize that, you know, you're really good at, you know, doing certain whatever, you know, endpoint out whatever those things are for them so that you know, that they know it.

 

00:19:21:13 - 00:19:51:18

Unknown

And and also, you know, do both sides of the brain, right, you know, talk about how the words, you know, we read with our, you know, with our right and everybody else reach our left and we're born with it, you know, so I'd explain it, you know, just and make sure that there's as much positive as as you can, because when you're in school, they don't look at anything positive.

 

00:19:51:19 - 00:20:34:05

Unknown

Right? There's nothing positive about us. There's nothing positive, that we do. Everything's on the on the negative side when it comes to it comes to school. So I'm, I'm a proponent of telling your kid or telling your teacher or excuse me, your coach. Also in sports, I know parents don't want them to be looked at differently, but it's not being looked at differently by telling them that means we're going to be looked at the same, or that's what we want is to be looked at the same.

 

00:20:34:07 - 00:21:00:17

Unknown

Right now, I get calls all the time. You're on for the hockey side of it, you know, athletic side. I don't want to, you know, I don't want my child to be looked at differently. No, you want them to look at the same. We looked at the same. Now if you don't tell the coach then they're going to be looked at differently because they don't have the understanding of how your son or daughter operates.

 

00:21:00:19 - 00:21:24:14

Unknown

And another good point is because. So when Montgomery, then everyone was like, oh, dyslexic people are creative and all these things. So remember when I had talked about it, when he was getting tested, I was like, oh my God, what if he doesn't have dyslexia? What if it is like? And I went through that and that was really and I'm like, I know he's clever, I know he's smart, but what, because I wasn't diagnosed until later and that was my message, like, oh, your sister's smart one.

 

00:21:24:14 - 00:21:42:07

Unknown

And she's creative. So that was like, oh, dyslexic people are really creative. And so that was the narrative that was in my brain where Montgomery couldn't draw like I couldn't draw. So it was like. And then everyone, oh, are you creative or are you good at math? Because like, my nephew was good at math. And so then Montgomery is like, well, I'm not good at math.

 

00:21:42:07 - 00:22:06:22

Unknown

I'm like, yeah, sorry, honey, you got all that learning disability too. So we were able to, but I put it all under the dyslexic umbrella because I didn't want to be like, oh, guess what? And you have this, and you have this, and you have this, and you have this at that young age until it was, you know, as he grew older, then we talked and we kind of split everything up because I didn't want him to be like, wait, there's so much wrong with me.

 

00:22:06:22 - 00:22:27:23

Unknown

And I don't have the same typical where I can draw where. Oh, dyslexics are creative and they're usually good at math, and they're this we weren't that profile because of our other learning disabilities. So that was a really important thing that I really emphasized because he would say, well, mom, I'm not that. And my teacher said, oh, this, you know, that people would dyslexia are usually blah, blah, blah.

 

00:22:27:23 - 00:22:51:05

Unknown

And he's like, I'm not that. And so that was very important as we we spoke and there's a few things that, you know, I don't know if we ever talked about this. And I hate, you know, I was talk about dyslexics as big picture thinkers. I don't want that term. I know, you know, or artistic, like you said, you know, we're autistics.

 

00:22:51:08 - 00:23:19:08

Unknown

You know, I can't draw a stick, man. Right. Same thing. You know, I can't draw. So, you know, obviously, you know, in our community, right. Artistic first thing when you think of art like drawing or whatever it is I always refer to as working with their hands, you know, like our doc actor athlete, right? We need to touch and feel.

 

00:23:19:08 - 00:23:40:09

Unknown

But soon as you see or, you know, or artistic automatically goes to, you know, to the art, art side of things. And, you know, the big picture thinker. I don't think you know, I know I'm not I'm a small picture thinker on details.

 

00:23:40:11 - 00:23:59:03

Unknown

Because I always talk about that, you know, the tape measure, I, you know, to refer to people, you know, like the number one, two, three. Right. We don't see that. We see every little notch in between. Right there. Details go get us bigger in a different way. Yeah. So this is this is what I love. And this is why, like I love that we can do this in the podcast.

 

00:23:59:04 - 00:24:22:07

Unknown

Because when you always say the hands thing like I always like Montgomery can like the teacher was like, oh, he's dyslexic. He's going to go into the trades. And I was like, no, like, we couldn't even put Legos together, you know? That's how much his hands with dysgraphia or not. But the big picture like out of the box thinking like, do you like out of the box thinking term.

 

00:24:22:09 - 00:24:39:04

Unknown

Well, well, but hang on, you know, you know, with your hands touch and feel right. He's the athlete, right? No. So you have a different. But when you say it in my head, I go right to, oh my God, no, we're not like I mean, I can put things together. I'm actually pretty good at that. He's he's better now.

 

00:24:39:04 - 00:25:15:02

Unknown

But I used to always do it. But like the electric. No. 100%. But it's the interpretation right. Yeah. You know again touch and feel and that's your stick. He's you know, we touch and feel. That's how we learn. Athlete. Musician you know architect write artists. You know it was all touching. You know times to feel and the big picture thinker you know we think of details see I don't I'm actually so this is where I think is interesting.

 

00:25:15:02 - 00:25:36:11

Unknown

So like I like the word out of the box thinking. Yeah. Because like and not linear right. Like and I know like working with teachers and doctors like you can tell when someone is a linear thinker, right. They can't see outside of those lines. Right. And so the box is way better I think you like that better. So big picture I actually am.

 

00:25:36:14 - 00:25:59:20

Unknown

And this is where I would love because I'm sure we're saying the same thing, but just in different vocabulary. Like I am not detailed, I'm actually pretty shit with details. I can see what's going to happen and like the vision of it there, but I can't see those steps to get it there. Does that make sense? So like when I am on a team or working, I can say this is how this is what I think it should be or it's going to happen.

 

00:25:59:20 - 00:26:24:05

Unknown

I can see the end result, but the little parts of it, I don't know how to get there, but I think you can. But I don't know if that's a dyslexic thing or a or just a gift that, you know, like what that is like that this is where I always get fascinated with the human brain. Right? Is it that I have more dyscalculia or you know what I mean, or like so that part is like that fucking smushed and I don't have that.

 

00:26:24:06 - 00:26:44:15

Unknown

Or is cookie cutter, you know, and 100% last week, you know, mom was asking me about, you know, one church and this and how do we work as a foundation? I'm like, everything is grassroots because everything is, you know, everything is different. Every person is every different. Right? Do they have one of the five? Do they have two of the five day right.

 

00:26:44:16 - 00:27:10:14

Unknown

Which now which one of the two five days you have and what a severity of. There's no there's no cookie cutter of one. Just this is it, you know. Yeah. It's it's too complex. There's too much that goes into it. You know. You know, obviously the human brain isn't isn't simple. No. And I and I love how you said that because it's literally like spaghetti soup.

 

00:27:10:15 - 00:27:30:00

Unknown

Right. And there could be more spaghetti. There could be more broth. There could be more carrots. I know that's not there's no spaghetti. Where on God's green earth. Where are you going with that one? I had I had spaghetti and then I was thinking, what you can soup. Spaghetti. I was thinking of like like the mush mash in your brain.

 

00:27:30:00 - 00:27:49:12

Unknown

And then I put the soup in, because then I was thinking of chicken soup with all the Ukrainians. I don't see our brain as that. You know, when I talk about the left and right and, you know, you normally read with your left, then on the right, with the right, then think of your bowl spaghetti. And those are all the that's the you know, that's how I always I don't know I don't know if spaghetti soup is.

 

00:27:49:13 - 00:28:10:02

Unknown

So it was going to that I guess I was getting alphabet soup. Alphabet soup whatever it is, there's some people's soup or some people's brain. And we can stay with my analogy here. That has more of one. So that's why it's not just as Brant said, it's not just cookie cutter. So if we were to say this is how you need to speak to the teacher, we would be full of shit.

 

00:28:10:02 - 00:28:30:22

Unknown

And that's why we don't like other organizations, because it is like very black and white of what they say. And how we talk about it is our experiences, what we're seeing. We are all different. And that's why the strengths and weaknesses, talking about them in a positive way. Hey. These are your strengths. But that's why it's so awesome to be self-aware of yourself.

 

00:28:30:22 - 00:28:54:17

Unknown

And then also watch your child and see, right? Oh, these are strengths. And then build those up because you know, when they get to school, it's going to be they're not going to even talk about that. And it's going to be all about the shit. Right? So we all have that. So that's one of the things that you are so good in those details where and that's what remember when we talk to Dan the lacrosse guy.

 

00:28:54:19 - 00:29:16:09

Unknown

And I can never remember the two words. Yeah. Oh, good. The two words that he would say, I'd be like, yes, oh my God. And he talked about his team and it's the I'm not going to remember. But I loved it because it really hit. But I need to think of different words because I can't think when was an executed was executed and then the and the detailed person like.

 

00:29:16:10 - 00:29:36:21

Unknown

And so he comes up with those big picture like he likes that word big because he would be like, no, this is how I see it at the end. But now I need my the people to get us there. And that's why you need all of those different brains in workforces, in communities, all of that, because you have the people that can come up with the ideas and then you can have people.

 

00:29:36:21 - 00:29:57:04

Unknown

But that doesn't necessarily mean like, we both have dyslexia, right? We both have similar we have both have the Fords. But you see those little details where I have to be shown those details. But I can go and talk about the that but which I think you can to like, you could see the end kind of result as well.

 

00:29:57:04 - 00:30:20:10

Unknown

But you probably yeah I can you know, I can definitely you know see you know see the end in. But at the end is so different. You know, when you say, you know, again, it's when you're talking to somebody who doesn't have it, you know, back to you know, our, you know, artistic. Right. First thing, you go to a big picture.

 

00:30:20:11 - 00:30:44:01

Unknown

Oh, you can see everything, you know. You know. No. Right. I know what you're saying. Yeah. You can't. Right. There's a lot of things that we can't see in that big picture. And that's why you hate it. Because you encompass the whole thing and you're talking about. Yeah, I understand that. And but, you know, and the the fine details is what gets us to that big picture, you know, and something that, you know, something that we're looking at.

 

00:30:44:01 - 00:31:13:15

Unknown

But outside the box is, you know, is a very good one because it's pretty self-explanatory. You know, we think differently, right? We're thinking outside the outside of the box. And we, you know, we clearly do. And that, you know, in the school that's that's not okay. And that's what one of the things I think is really kind of cool, though, for a parent to think about it like I have obviously, you know, lived 52 years, have had multiple tons of conversation.

 

00:31:13:15 - 00:31:28:03

Unknown

But then when you're in certain situations and you like doing stuff that I'm doing in the medical world, like you think, oh, a doctor, oh my gosh, they're so smart, right? Doctors are so smart.

 

00:31:28:05 - 00:31:51:10

Unknown

I'm not saying they're not. So anyone that's listening, I'm not saying they for the majority because I have some that are not. The majority of them are smart in book smart and they can retain and they're really good at that. They are not out of the box thinkers. And it's and the what we do is the product that we do isn't out of the box thing.

 

00:31:51:10 - 00:32:16:06

Unknown

So it's been so fascinating for me and then also for my own confidence in my, my intelligence. It's been like, I mean, there's times where I'm like, oh yeah, how am I the person that is like the logical person here where this group of people who are so trained in what they're doing, and I am having to explain this when this kid turned upside down, people that are Booksmart close.

 

00:32:16:06 - 00:32:42:04

Unknown

My family and Elizabeth I talked about yesterday how in God's green earth did they even live every day? How did it survive? Totally. It's so true. Literally. This was yesterday afternoon. We had this conversation. I'm like, how do they even live day to day? But they say the same thing about risk right there. Workspace or or wherever they is and crush it.

 

00:32:42:06 - 00:33:13:11

Unknown

But as soon as you close that door of, you know, obviously a doctor and a teacher to two prime prime examples, you close that door, I'm like, how do they know? How do they get to point A to point B with some of the shit they do? So linear and it is fascinating. Like it is really fascinating. I like in the beginning would get frustrated because I was like, oh, this is like, you know, but now I, I really sit in it and it's like fascinating for let me try to explain to them how they can understand.

 

00:33:13:11 - 00:33:39:04

Unknown

And that to me is also like, you know, like, wow, I just did that. Like, holy shit, I was fucking doctor. So but like, these are all kind of thinking points for anyone that's listening to this, because if you have it or you don't have it or whatever journey you are, it's going to be okay because you're here, you're trying to learn, you're trying to help.

 

00:33:39:05 - 00:34:02:20

Unknown

That's what the community is about. And taking. You said last night, which I thought was so beautiful and you could just see, like, you care about your child, you care and you're trying to help. Don't beat yourself up because you're where you are. Celebrate if you can. Because trust me, someone said that to me. I would be like, go fuck yourself, drink your bottle of wine.

 

00:34:02:22 - 00:34:25:20

Unknown

And then I use this reference last night for a reason. You're you're ahead of where I was. Yeah, I was 32, obviously. You know. And so however old your kid is, you're, you're in the middle of getting them diagnosed or just got diagnosed. They're light years ahead of where I was. So let's let's use that as a comparison.

 

00:34:25:20 - 00:34:47:14

Unknown

That's a win. You know, you care. I wanted them to to to hear that in a different way. Right. And they're not going to struggle the way I do because they didn't wait as long. Right. And that was just the way the world was back then. Right. So, one of them the to leave their with little.

 

00:34:47:16 - 00:35:08:11

Unknown

You know, hope. Hope that's a good word. Yeah, yeah. We're gonna leave it there. Thank you for listening to another episode of Word Blindness season five. Look at us. How many years? And you said no. That first time should be a jail for stalking. I did it above the board.

 

00:35:08:13 - 00:35:27:23

Unknown

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00:35:27:23 - 00:35:45:18

Unknown

We will not be spamming you. It's like a once a month. This is what we have. If you want to join, you don't have to say anything. You don't have to camera on. You can just sit and listen. But there are times that you can talk and we ask members to share if they want. But it's a place to be seen and heard.

 

00:35:45:18 - 00:35:53:06

Unknown

And we're just excited that, you know, watching the growth of it, it's long time coming, right?